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22nd February 2018 
How therapy can help #01

How therapy can help





Many people who come to see me say that they don't really know themselves. Not knowing ourselves can mean that we may often go along with the wishes of others and ignore our needs.

Instead of being in charge of our own lives, we may make choices that are based on the opinions of other people, especially those who are (or have been) close to us; parents, for example. This often-repeated pattern can make us feel uncomfortable, uncertain as to how we got to where we are and unsure about how to move forward.

Therapy can help you to learn about yourself in a supportive and non-judgemental setting and so:

  • Know yourself better
  • Take stock of your history
  • Review the present
  • Break repeated patterns from your past
  • Regain control of your life
  • Find out what you really want/need
  • Explore the possibilities of the future and how to do life differently
  • Consider the consequences of changing
  • Value yourself
  • Boost your confidence and self-esteem
  • Become more assertive


Being able to talk freely and privately about your problems can often help to alleviate them. You will be safe in the knowledge that your confidences will not be betrayed and that you will be valued as courageous, rather than being judged to be inadequate.

Working with me and using me as a 'sounding board' can help you to refine your ideas and learn and understand more about yourself.

Knowing yourself better can help you to make more informed decisions about how you want to manage your life. You may find that problems from the past that have got in the way gradually become part of history, allowing you to live fully in the present.

Although there are no guarantees, many people find that therapy helps to relieve distress, create effective coping strategies and develop more satisfying ways of living.